Unhappy within himself
He had lost his ability to find joyous moments and occasions in his every day, every hour and even moments
Why did he get angry when she eagerly ate the cake he bought her. He watched her eat with such verve that was wonderful to watch, if you were not he!
The cake was oozing it’s generous fillings, they dribbled down her chin. She didn’t care. A crumb sitting happily in the corner of her mouth. A drop perched itself high upon her heavy breast.
So displeased as he watched this horror show, he wanted to yell, for god sake, why are you so clumsy? Clean yourself up!
As she pushed the last mouthful into her mouth, her happy face turned to a sad face as he curtly told her “ wipe your mouth”
Still savouring those last morsels of her delectable cake, she patted around her mouth. Missing the spots with every dab, the angry man became more displeased with every flub.
There he growled pointing to the corner of her mouth. As she missed again he snapped “NO at her, “to the left more”. Rolling his eyes as he snarled NO! again slamming his fist on the table.
Looking down at her empty plate, the joy in her gluttonous experience was made joyless by the way he spoke to her. Why can’t you wipe it off for me? Why do you get so grumpy with me?
He sat and took in her words. He knew he was hard on her. She was right. He asked himself silently, why am I unhappy? Why do I blame her for my unhappiness.
The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off yourself when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making the other feel guilty or bad about something by blaming them, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy
Wayne Dyer
Janette Bendle
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